Final post

I recommend this class to every psy major I meet! From this class I learned Self-awareness, how to over come obstacles that stand in the way of my goals and dreams, better ways of communicating with understanding, and self-discipline and motivation. Long story short, I learned to like and care for me. That my dreams and goals should not come last to everyone elses. I enjoyed working the book for this class and wish more classes were as interactive at this one. 

Personal Journey 7.1

Generating Positive Motivation:

 I have to work hard on my resume, or else I won't get the job.
I with work hard on my resume and get a good job.

 I'm gathering references because no one will hire me without them.
References will be helpful potential employers see my work ethics.

 I'm applying for lots of jobs because I don't want to feel like I missed an opportunity.
Applying for many jobs will bring more opportunity.

 I need to practice interview techniques so I don't bungle it in the big day.
I practice interview techniques so I am prepared for the big day.

 I have to follow up on the interview, or else they'll think I don't want the job.
Following up on the interview will show them my eagerness to want the job.

Fourth term paper blog entry

     I am seeing some positive progress. However, I am a bit of an pessimism and continue to go back to the same self defeating attitude. Positive thinking is a great concept to a positive life but if you don't have cheerleaders to help you feel that this process is working or that I'm doing it right in feels lacking in the change I wanted to see by now. I really expected the change to living a rational life to be the use of common sense. It turns out I am wrong. I do intend to continue to use the new skills I have learned in A Guide to Rational Living. I find myself trying to tweak the process, I understand that if I believe something to be true I can make it so. I am just really too unsure in myself esteem and lack a large portion of positive self image. I plan to continue using Dr. Ellis and Dr. Harper's techniques to better the quality of my life.

Personal Journal 9.4

Work conflict: Working in the health care profession means that if your relief doesn't come to work or is late you the care taker on duty can not leave. After a 16 hour shift all you want is to see your relief, report and go home to your family or at least your bed. My relief is always late and we often argue about this. I told the lead tech but still her behavior continued. About three day ago I had taken all the crap I am going to from her and told her. I will admit I did not handle the conflict well. I told her how I felt and I may have insulated her a little, telling her I feel she is lazy and inconsiderate. She and I both ended up with a write up for the words exchanged in the public view.

School Conflict: School conflict worked out better. Last semester I had a professor that was very unstable and controlling. He strongly believed that fear is a healthy thing. I don't know about any one besides me but my fight or flight reaction to fear is more fight than flight. He started the first day by telling each of us that he has seen any and all academic transcripts from elementary to that day. Then, He continually made chauvinist remarks about girls being the weaker sex and call you out by saying "you, little girl". Are you kidding me!! This is 2012,(2011) No, he did not just call me, a mother, wife, and voting American a little girl to insulate me. I handled this situation the only way I could with out having to go to court. I dropped the class and took a different instructor this semester. I would like to go on record in saying that I corrected his behavior several times. In cases when he called me girl or little girl I simple said my own name out loud so that he could hear me clearly. This only made the situation worse.

Home Conflict: My eldest son is coming into his own and I understand this very well. Yet at times his requests are unreasonable.He currently wants me to rent a hotel room in down town Nashville for him and two of his friends for the anaemia conference. There is NO WAY I am renting a room for my 14 year old son and his 14 year old friends. I tried being reasonable in saying that if the other mothers were willing to drive there and back on one of the other two days that I would drive them there and back on one of the days. The conference is three days long there is three of them, makes sense to me. But to him I was not letting him be a big boy (my words not his). I left this conflict unresolved. I am willing to compromise but not on his terms.

Personal Journal 9.3

I am a mother but I am not every ones care taker.
I am a helpful person but I am not to be used.
I am a smart girl but I am not a genus.
I am adventurist but I am not stupid...

Personal Journal 9.1

I feel like your not listening to me because you interrupt every time I speak.
I feel hurt when you criticize me.
I feel unimportant to you when you are always late.
I would like it if you could be more helpful around the house.
I feel myself getting aggravated because your actions are immature.
I am a strong believer in I statements. Change starts with you. No one likes to be told what wrong with them. I statements are a good way to get your point across with out being condescending.

Personal Journal 8.4

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP!

• Purchase : Bought a Boxer puppy for $800.00 

•       Why I did: She was so cute and she wanted to come home with me.

•       Why I wish I hadn't: We already had two dogs that are a hand full. We live in a small house.

Next time I am tempted to make an impules buy I will call my husband, so he can talk some sense into me.